From Good To Bad For You

You drive past a jogger and with admiration you think, “What dedication and perseverance!”. You come across a well organised desk and you think, “It must be amazing to always have everything so neat and tidy!”. You are at a luncheon and your co-worker orders a salad with no dessert and you think, “Now that is great willpower and self-control!”.

What you do not know is the reasons behind all those seemingly good things. Some-times what appears good on the outside may stem from a not so good place on the inside.

jog-eat-drinkThe jogging may have started as a stress release which is good, but then as the stress increases, the jogging also increases and afterwards that coping mechanism could start taking a toll on your body… shinsplints, hairline fractures, or worse.

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Many try to adjust their eating habits and begin making healthier foods choices but if or when you find yourself in a slump and not able to deal with emotional stress you may find yourself becoming more strict on your eating habits. This can escalate to such a degree that it leads to very restrictive eating or the total opposite is also possible, and you may find yourself overeating uncontrollably.

Having everything neat and tidy may have always been your thing, even as a child or maybe that only came about later on in life. Irrespective of when… it’s nice to have order in your life but should you feel as if you are loosing a handle on your life, you may find yourself obsessing too much over your surroundings. In the worst case scenario, this could spiral into a compulsive behavior which can ultimately cripple your life.

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The above scenarios initially stemmed from seemingly good habits, but they can ultimately lead to disorders that are bad for your health. None of us are able to control everything in our lives but do various things in order to feel in control of something. It all stems from the helplessness experienced when your world seems to be spinning out of control. We may not be aware of this occurrence because it often happens on a subconscious level before it manifests in our physical world. The shift from being good for you’ to becoming bad for you’ is very subtle. Most of us will not notice it as a problem until something happens to bring it to our attention or someone else makes mention of it.

Perfectionism, dedication, perseverance, willpower and self-control are perceived by many as great qualities and are often praised. This is the main reason why it is difficult to comprehend that any of these qualities could escalate into something negative.

The time old saying “EVERYTHING IN MODERATION” is obliviously more knowledgeable than we think. Or maybe we do think it but fail to realize when we pass the point of moderation. There are always signs along the way. It is up to us to stop and take notice. We need to remain conscious about finding a balance between all the things that occupy your time so that no one thing monopolizes it.

I wish you a very long and happy life of moderation.


Fact:Crocodile and Bird

Some birds nest in crocodile or alligator infested areas. This may be because they help clear away snakes and other predators that feast on birds and their eggs. So this seemingly bad decision, that could get them eaten, in actual fact increases the chance of their off-spring surviving.


Affirmation:Lightbulb Jumping

I love myself, therefore all that I decide to do is always in my best interest and for my highest good. 


Quote:Diciding Emoji

Your life is the total sum of all your decisions, so decide wisely!


Inspiration:

BOOK

The Singles Game - BOOK

 
 
The Singles Game
by Lauren Weisberer
Genre : Romance Novel/Sports Fiction
 

MOVIE
As Good As It Gets - MOVIE

Title : As Good as It Gets
Time : 2hr 19min
Genre : Drama/Romance

SONG
Be Alright by Kehlani



Doing Happiness

Tight chest, thumping heart, shortness of breath or a lump in your throat; I’m sure many of you have experienced one of these at some time or maybe even all at once.

It could be plain old anxiety or a panic attack if your surroundings start spinning, maybe even a heart attack if you feel a sharp pain but what if it’s accompanied by a smile forming across your face?

Any one of these experiences will lead you to gasp for air. The former three will have some sort of adverse effect on your life but the latter will most probably leave you sighing with relief.

Some people may let this experience pass without a second thought. Others, after composing themselves may have questions racing through their heads. “What was that?”, if it passed quickly or “What is going on?”, if you remain smiling at nothing in particular. When you stop smiling but the feeling of elation remains, you may wonder, “What is this all in aid of?”. 

Smiles for no reason at all, inexplicable moments of elation and still thoughts of total contentment are results of pure happiness. On the contrary expressionless faces, mind racing thoughts and heavy hearts are the result of a life in momentary turmoil.

We can’t expect to be happy all the time but we can try to lessen the things that threaten our happiness. This would include the pressure of expectation placed on us by either ourselves or others. It’s very difficult to be happy if you are feeling overwhelmed by all your responsibilities.

How about doing a little exercise?

Write down a list of what you HAVE TO DO for yourself:
I HAVE TO PACK MY CUPBOARD
I HAVE TO TAKE MY CAR FOR A SERVICE
I HAVE TO…

Now re-write the same list starting with I WOULD LIKE TO:
I WOULD LIKE TO PACK MY CUPBOARD
I WOULD LIKE TO TAKE MY CAR FOR A SERVICE
I WOULD LIKE TO…
Reading this list will ultimately put a whole new spin on your feeling towards the tasks but you may still not really want to do any of them.

Replace ‘WOULD LIKE’ with ‘NEED’ and then think of the worst case scenario should you decide not do to these things:
I NEED TO PACK MY CUPBOARD – If not then
I’d waste time searching for things which could make me late!
I NEED TO TAKE MY CAR FOR A SERVICE – If not then
It may breakdown causing major damage which will take longer and cost more to repair. I may have to be without my car for much longer than the day service would take.

Now re-looking your list with consequences you can decide what it is that you REALLY need to do.
This will ultimately shorten your list and lessen your stress. You may even find that your feelings towards certain things on your ‘TO DO LIST’ changes after you complete something that you ‘REALLY NEEDED TO DO’.

The things you know and feel that you ‘have to do’ for family, friends and work can evoke feelings of guilt and fear and nothing good ever comes from those emotions.

I suggest that you apply the same strategy as above. You may want to add in the benefits of doing these things, including how it makes you feel with the positive and negative spin-offs thereof. This may seem very long winded but the more you do it, the easier it becomes and you may not even need to write anything down. Only do what makes you feel good and don’t even bother with that which will go unappreciated. Make doubly sure that you have enough time in your schedule because there’s nothing worse than being inundated with no end in sight.

We all have things that we absolutely love to do but tend to overlook prioritising them. What we fail to realise is that these little things are fundamentally important to our overall happiness.
So please remember to do the little things that make you HAPPY!


Fact:Quokka

The quokka, part of the kangaroo and wallaby family, has been described as the “world’s happiest animal”.


Affirmation:Smiling Heart

I have the right to choose to do what makes me happy!


Quote:

Freedom Happiness


Inspiration:

BOOK
The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants
by Ann Brashares
Young Adult Fiction Novel

MOVIE
The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel
Time : 124 min
Drama / Comedy-drama

SONG

The Lazy Song by Bruno Mars