The warmth of a breeze The rustling of the trees A special sunset or a twinkling star Remembering you and pondering where you are Do you think of me too and the things we use to do
Words unable to express the feelings that filled our space When every second together felt like a saving grace Sharing memorable moments of joyous times With your warm smile and laughing eyes Safely cocooned in a world of our own
Years later my thoughts run away Meeting where only dreams prevail Why did we part and break each others heart Are you happy in bliss or living a numbing pain Could we have made it through if we had tried again
Thinking of what may have been Wondering about everything unseen Was our ending worth the sorrow Did we both experiencing a better tomorrow
I allow my emotional well wishes to take flight Hoping you’re somewhere in-love and your life filled with light
Its time to forge your path Take flight and soar Enjoy the highs and lows The world is here to explore Experiences are all you keep What is now is not on repeat Don’t waste your time with overthinking Grab hold those young and carefree Before you’re to old to do and see
I’m sure you’ve come across the words: “You’re perfect just the way you are!”, and you may have responded somewhere along the lines of: “Am I really?”.
We often segment ourselves, ridiculing different parts saying: “I like this, but not that…”, whereas others tend to see and look at us as a whole and are probably less likely to pinpoint the flaws we nitpick about.
What we perceive as flaws are often the defining characteristics other people find appealing and attractive. Even though we hear phrases like, “we can’t all be the same” and “we are all unique”, most of us at some point just want to fit in and not be different or stand out. The attributes that make you unique are often the ones you wish away. Being accepted by your peers feels important and no matter how many people tell you its not or that it doesn’t matter, it still affects you none the less. People who sing this song probably didn’t have the problem or they’ve already overcome the hurdle of accepting themselves exactly as they are.
‘If you like and accept yourself, others will to’, is a concept that does not ring true for everyone. There are some fortunate individuals to whom everyone is attracted, even though they may secretly not like or even accept themselves as they are. Onlookers with negative feelings about themselves will wish to trade places, thinking that likability would automatically solve their problems and assist to materialize all their hopes and dreams. On the other hand, some people often find themselves on their own and are totally happy and at peace in their own space, but observers may pity them, thinking it’s sad and that they must be very lonely. The lesson here is that situations are not always as it seems and what’s observed or portrayed on the outside may not be what’s prevailing on the inside.
Everyone perceives life differently. We all wish for what we do not have. We fall victim to thinking that we’d be happier if only certain things were different. The jokes on us. Happiness actually only comes from within and this is a result of accepting all our physical attributes and the situations in which we find ourselves. This does not mean that you do not need to strive for better. Oh hell no, that’s just the platform to build on. The mindset of “I’m happy with where I am, how I look and what I do”, puts you in the perfect head-space to be able to improve and excel at anything because it’s always easier starting from a positive place.
I love the sentiment; happiness is not an end destination, meaning to not put your ‘HAPPINESS’ on hold until you achieve something. In order to be happy you need to be content on your journey towards your achievements. If this is not the case you may experience short lived euphoria or an empty, hollow happiness; thinking that it will be better when you reach your next big goal. This negatively charged, goal-shifting habit is extremely detrimental to our well-being. The same goes for putting yourself down if you do not achieve a specific goal you’ve set. We should in actual fact be so proud of ourselves for just trying and even more ecstatic if we achieve what we set out to do.
LIFE is not perfect. We are not perfect. Our friends, family, partners and co-workers are not perfect. Or are they? When they are in agreement with us and all our actions align, then we see everything as perfect, but when anything is out of sync then it’s as if the whole world is crashing down upon us. Everyone needs to do what they think is best for them and their situation, so things may not always align to your will. In some instances it will be perfect for you and in others, it will feel perfect for someone else. People often place unnecessary expectations on themselves and others to be and act a certain way. We’re normally over the moon, thinking that our world is perfect if things play out as we hoped, but should this not be the case, then major unhappiness ensues. Why does one perfect occurrence need to be at the expense of another or is this just how we perceive life?
The way of the world is to evolve and a conscious internal mind-shift could be the emotional evolution we need to see our lives and ourselves as perfect. Could this really be the answer to a blissful life? If you’re distraught by the current view of your life then why not try on a different perception for size? What’s the worst that could happen; everything may still seem the same or a happy life may be your perfect fit?
So to conclude: “The perfect solution for us may be to graciously accept what we now perceive as imperfect, whether in ourselves or others because that very imperfection may be what is needed to bring about the perfection we so desperately seek.”
The Fibonacci sequence, each number being the sum of the two numbers that precede it, (0, 1, 1, 2, 3, 5, 8, … to infinity), often appears in nature; like the number of petals in a flower. These petals are also placed according The Golden Ratio, at 0.618034 per turn around a 360° circle, which allows the best possible exposure to sunlight.
I am PERFECT just the way I am!
BOOK Anne of Green Gables by Lucy Maud Montgomery Genre : Children Novel
MOVIE The Princess Diaries Time : 1hr 55min Genre : Romance/Comedy
I had an epiphany when I came across the statement; “choosing to not make a choice, is a choice in itself”. It made me rethink my past; considering where I blamed others for an experience, when in actual fact it was me who had allowed it. So no-one else was to blame, but me… That then took me on a whole new negative journey; blaming myself instead of others.
Fortunately with extra life experience, books, movies and therapy, I came to the conclusion that using words with negative connotations rarely produces anything positive in your life. Now when rethinking the above, I choose to replace the word “blame” with “responsible”; so no-one else was responsible, but me.
Taking ownership of all that happens in your LIFE is empowering in itself, even if the results aren’t entirely favourable. It’s amazing how a shift in thinking can alter your sentiment with regards to any situation and give rise to a totally different emotional response. We relinquish our power when, consciously or unconsciously, we allow others to steer our lives. The same goes for just letting life happen because in doing so, you render yourself helpless.
It’s a bit difficult rethinking what you could have done as a child because your PARENTS were in charge and they made all the decisions. You didn’t really have any power over what happened, but now your power lies in how you choose to view those choices that were made for you.
Caregivers choose to do what they think is best for you at the time. People of yesteryear questioned less and were more accepting of authoritarian figures. This conditioning led to automatic decision making, based on old mindsets passed on from previous generations, so even though circumstances had changed, often the responses did not. Breaking this cycle, with out of the box thinking, was very difficult because you had to challenge all that you were taught. The youth of today can speak up for themselves more easily, challenging those in charge, especially if what’s happening to them is deemed oppressive because there is more recourse.
Making life choices is trying at the best of times and having the responsibility of doing so for others, is even worst. Fortunately there’s a positive to every negative thought or feeling. If little people are under your care, then you have been gifted with a great opportunity to equip them with the necessary skills to make smart personal choices. You can start to inculcate decision making from a very young age by allowing them to decide on what to wear or how to spend their saving. Yes, these may be very simple decisions, but the experience of being responsible and learning to take charge of your own choices will greatly benefit them in the future.
As adults we are all faced with tough decisions and indecisiveness can be very overwhelming and stressful. The inability to make calculated choices for ourselves can be draining and that may lead us to allow others to take charge. This can result in major problems which can be emotionally stifling and even crippling later on in life.
If you’re lucky enough to come from a background where you obtained all the necessary skills to make your own decisions, then you’ll be in a position to live a life without regret because you’re able to take ownership of all that’s happening in your life. Should this not be the case and you find yourself pondering what you would have done differently if given a do-over, you could find yourself stuck in a horrible place filled with self-doubt and regret.
Do not fret if you’re in an unhappy place, questioning all that you’ve done thus far. From this comes personal growth, but only if you take the time to FORGIVE yourself and others for past experiences. Evaluate your current situation and know that you can choose to do whatever makes you happy at anytime. It’s never too late. You’ll need to weigh all the pros and cons to establish what is and will be most beneficial to you in the long run. Your emotional happiness and mental sanity depends on it.
You’ll have a whole lot to contemplate if you’re sitting with a work or RELATIONSHIP conundrum. Children will definitely complicate these decisions. Many parents make detrimental decisions considering what they think is best for their children. What they fail to realize is that, what’s good for them is most probably best for their children as well because a happy person makes for a happy parent. The task of making life changing decisions is not always easy. It may take some sacrifice; maybe even relinquishing some creature comforts you’ve become accustom to.
Whether you’re stuck in a job that’s unrewarding or in a relationship that is unfulfilling, questioning all your life’s choices or lack thereof, it’s good to reflect on how all these things came about. We need to question what criteria forms the bases of our decision making. It’s imperative that we consciously weigh all the information at hand before drawing to any conclusions, including: how we feel, what we know to be true and have learned from experience. This is often not the case, especially when life seems too chaotic. That’s when we find ourselves reverting to autopilot choices or procrastination because the whole process feels like too much of an effort. Many people fear making changes to remedy their situations because they are afraid of making the wrong choice. Valuable lessons often come from what we perceive to be a “wrong life choice” because it resulted in a bad experience or situation, but that may be the very catalyst needed to lead you to your blissful state. You have to be willing to take a chance and sometimes your safest choice is not always the best choice, but that is still your choice because you’re the one who will have to live with the consequences.
Always doing things to please others opens a whole can of worms. By doing so you lose yourself and afterwards you may not even be able to identify what you love, want or makes you happy. To ensure your happiness you have to believe in doing what’s best for you because you are deserving of everything good in this life. If you’ve always been a ‘people-pleaser’, then this change in attitude will be met with resistance. The people close to you or that you come into contact with on the daily will start to question: “Who is this person?” and “What happened to the person we knew?”. Arguments will ensue. Just be calm. Explain your position. If they respect, love and care about you, then they will understand and come to terms with your new disposition. If not, then they are not worthy of your time or energy! You are in control. You always have a choice. This is your power and your HAPPINESS does count. You can’t please or make everyone else happy all of the time, so why not choose to please and make yourself happy instead.
Dogs are most likely to run to you on your return and this is often interpreted as love and affection. Part of that reason may be because they are solely dependent on you.
Cats are more likely to do things on their own and just because they may not run to your side, doesn’t necessarily mean that they are cold or unfeeling. They’re just minglers and explorers.
I choose with love and my choices always steer me in the best direction possible.
You are the TOTAL SUM of all your LIFE CHOICES…
BOOK My Sister’s Keeper by Jodi Picoult Genre : Novel / Domestic Fiction
MOVIE Groundhog Day Time : 1hr 41min Genre : Drama/Fantasy