Advice, Happiness, Life, Personal Growth

Perfectly Imperfect


I’m sure you’ve come across the words: “You’re perfect just the way you are!”, and you may have responded somewhere along the lines of: “Am I really?”.

ImperfectWe often segment ourselves, ridiculing different parts saying: “I like this, but not that…”, whereas others tend to see and look at us as a whole and are probably less likely to pinpoint the flaws we nitpick about.

Im PerfectWhat we perceive as flaws are often the defining characteristics other people find appealing and attractive. Even though we hear phrases like, “we can’t all be the same” and “we are all unique”, most of us at some point just want to fit in and not be different or stand out. The attributes that make you unique are often the ones you wish away. Being accepted by your peers feels important and no matter how many people tell you its not or that it doesn’t matter, it still affects you none the less. People who sing this song probably didn’t have the problem or they’ve already overcome the hurdle of accepting themselves exactly as they are.

Nobody Is Perfect‘If you like and accept yourself, others will to’, is a concept that does not ring true for everyone. There are some fortunate individuals to whom everyone is attracted, even though they may secretly not like or even accept themselves as they are.  Onlookers with negative feelings about themselves will wish to trade places, thinking that likability would automatically solve their problems and assist to materialize all their hopes and dreams. On the other hand, some people often find themselves on their own and are totally happy and at peace in their own space, but observers may pity them, thinking it’s sad and that they must be very lonely. The lesson here is that situations are not always as it seems and what’s observed or portrayed on the outside may not be what’s prevailing on the inside.Happiness Perfection

Everyone perceives life differently. We all wish for what we do not have. We fall victim to thinking that we’d be happier if only certain things were different. The jokes on us. Happiness actually only comes from within and this is a result of accepting all our physical attributes and the situations in which we find ourselves. This does not mean that you do not need to strive for better. Oh hell no, that’s just the platform to build on. The mindset of “I’m happy with where I am, how I look and what I do”, puts you in the perfect head-space to be able to improve and excel at anything because it’s always easier starting from a positive place.

I love the sentiment; happiness is not an end destination, meaning to not put your ‘HAPPINESS’ on hold until you achieve something. In order to be happy you need to be content on your journey towards your achievements. If this is not the case you may experience short lived euphoria or an empty, hollow happiness; thinking that it will be better when you reach your next big goal. This negatively charged, goal-shifting habit is extremely detrimental to our well-being. The same goes for putting yourself down if you do not achieve a specific goal you’ve set. We should in actual fact be so proud of ourselves for just trying and even more ecstatic if we achieve what we set out to do. Mistakes Not Perfection

LIFE is not perfect. We are not perfect. Our friends, family, partners and co-workers are not perfect. Or are they? When they are in agreement with us and all our actions align, then we see everything as perfect, but when anything is out of sync then it’s as if the whole world is crashing down upon us. Everyone needs to do what they think is best for them and their situation, so things may not always align to your will. In some instances it will be perfect for you and in others, it will feel perfect for someone else. People often place unnecessary expectations on themselves and others to be and act a certain way. We’re normally over the moon, thinking that our world is perfect if things play out as we hoped, but should this not be the case, then major unhappiness ensues. Why does one perfect occurrence need to be at the expense of another or is this just how we perceive life?

The way of the world is to evolve and a conscious internal mind-shift could be the emotional evolution we need to see our lives and ourselves as perfect. Could this really be the answer to a blissful life?  If you’re distraught by the current view of your life then why not try on a different perception for size? What’s the worst that could happen; everything may still seem the same or a happy life may be your perfect fit? 

So to conclude: “The perfect solution for us may be to graciously accept what we now perceive as imperfect, whether in ourselves or others because that very imperfection may be what is needed to bring about the perfection we so desperately seek.”Imperfection Perfection


Fact :

5 Petal FlowerThe Fibonacci sequence, each number being the sum of the two numbers that precede it, (0, 1, 1, 2, 3, 5, 8, … to infinity), often appears in nature; like the number of petals in a flower. These petals are also placed according The Golden Ratio, at 0.618034 per turn around a 360° circle, which allows the best possible exposure to sunlight.


Affirmation :Dancing Butterflies

I am PERFECT just the way I am!


Quote :

Beyond Imperfections


Inspiration :

BOOK
Anne of Green Gables
by Lucy Maud Montgomery
Genre : Children Novel

MOVIE
The Princess Diaries
Time : 1hr 55min
Genre : Romance/Comedy

SONG
Perfect To Me by Anne-Marie


Advice, Weddings

The Joyful Woes of Weddings

Best Friends - Husband Wife

Isn’t it just the greatest news that two people intend celebrating their love with a formal union before friends and family?

The fuss of engagement, well wishes and sharing of wedding day ideas are all so exciting and enjoyable… and then comes the planning.

When people proclaim weddings to be stressful, I think many of us, who have not been there, normally think it’s an over exaggeration. But I kid you not; you will encounter the strangest, some of which you never even thought possible.

Yes, there have been many a comedy based around wedding planning but that’s just it, it’s a comedy and you end up thinking that those characters are overplaying things for the benefit of the movie.

What happens when you come face to face with one or more of those dilemmas? This is not a movie. Definitely not a comedy. This is real life. It is affecting you as a couple and inevitably everyone who plays an important role in your life. I stress the word ‘IMPORTANT’ because it is senseless to worry about or bear costs for anyone who poses no significance in your life. The only exception may arise when you wish to keep the peace with your parents and find  yourself needing to invite people who are important to them.

Deciding on the invitation list will more often than not have you thinking,… “All I wanted to do was get married, not be sitting with all this **** on my plate”. So you have: “Who to invite?”, as a starter, “What will cause the least upset?”, as your main, and hope that the “Perfect Solution” will be served for dessert. You may just have to pass up on dessert if you can’t figure it out. Who to seat around a table and who to keep as far from each other as possible? The last thing you would want is a fallout among friends or family when you are literally planning a union!

Plan Bride

All the other decision making can be fun but only if you allow it to be so. Your choices are important but if you are not able to get everything exactly as you imagined, be prepared to compromise and always bear in mind that it will come together beautifully.

Plan Groom

If this is not your mindset then all the movies in which couples decided to elope may cross your mind. The main reason is to escape the stress and strife surrounding what should be the ‘happiest day of their life’. You can’t help but question if that wouldn’t be an easier option.

Should you choose to bite the bullet, then the rapid approach of your momentous day will only hit you after realizing that everything has been decided upon. Everyone tries to plan for any mishaps that could disrupt the smoothly sailing of your day. Even so, do mentally prepare yourself for unexpected hiccups because, “THERE IS ALWAYS SOMETHING!”

Happy Planning Is Over

There maybe a fashion problem, a transport problem,  photo problem, a venue setup problem, a catering problem, a family problem, whatever the problem, know that it will be sorted out and the day will go on. There will be laughter and tears, highs and lows and that will all make for amazing story-telling in the long-run.

Souls Hearts - John Keats

The BIG DAY is upon you. You experience HAPPY NERVES or COLD FEET  or maybe just a COOL CALM, even to the point where you are VOID of EMOTION. Whatever it may be, accept this as normal. Do not question how you should be feeling. It is different for everyone. Irrespective of what, this is a major turning point in your life because all you have known thus far is forging a path for one and from now onward it will be a joint life forging a way for two.My only advice is that you remember to take time throughout the day to capture mental memories because it passes quickly and when the day draws to a close, you will want to be able to relive all the special moments. Know that you have many future days to create extra special moments, even if not all went your way on YOUR SPECIAL DAY!


Inspired by:
XAV & ZAK
Wishing You
A LONG LIFE IN LOVE

Loving Penguin CoupleFact:

African and Royal penguins are monogamous, often mating for life. Both, male and female, prepare their nest and take care of the chicks.


Affirmation:Red Wedding Hearts

Small details take care of themselves and all is as it should be.


Quote:

Funny Marriage Quote


Inspiration:

MOVIE
Title: Father of the Bride
Time: 1 hr 45 min
Genre: Comedy

Father of the Bride - MOVIE

SONG
I Do by Boyz II Men


Advice, Self-love

Slow Down, Take Time and Enjoy Being


I found the statement: “We are HUMAN-BEINGS and not HUMAN-DOINGS” so profound that it got me thinking. Most of us will probably have great difficulty with just being because we are too caught up with doing.

We live in an age where productivity is of the utmost importance. Everyone is always trying to optimize something or the other.

People often feel guilty if they are not physically doing something because we have cultivated a society in which we feel obligated to always fill our time.

This has led to a stress filled world where we often find ourselves saying that we do not have time. Yes work is important. It is what helps us survive. But why can’t you schedule in some time for yourself, the way you would an executive meeting? You shouldn’t have to wait for a vacation!

Here is a list of quick ‘taking time out for yourself’ suggestions:

Gaze at the Stars 

Be in awe of all the wonders our world possesses…

Admire Nature

Take a seat on the ground… How awesome was that as a child?

Watch a Sunset

The beauty will always take your breath away!

Stroll along the beach

If you are lucky enough be sure to feel the sand beneath your feet.


Fact:Love your Brain

Stress kills brain cells; a calm environment permits their growth. So help them out and give them a nice place to live.


Affirmation:Clock

I have all the time in the world. I am surrounded by love and beauty.


Inspiration:

BOOK

If You Could See Me Now

by Cecelia Ahern

Genre: Fiction

If You Could See Me Now - Book

MOVIE

Point Break

Time: 123 min

Genre: Crime/Thriller

Point Break - Movie


SONG

What a Wonderful World by Louis Armstrong


Advice, Depression, Hope, Relationships

There’s Hope for Depression


This was written with people who ‘do not have or have never experienced  depression’  in mind.

I prefer to use the word experience instead of suffer from as it has a more positive connotation and this subject needs all the positivity it can get.

Where to begin?… maybe a depiction of what it feels like so you are able to understand  & empathize because if you have never been through this experience, then it seems somewhat incomprehensible.

Depression Feels Like Drowning

It’s a mental state that physically pains you; like a heavy blanket that weighs you down; a dark cloud threatening to never let the sun shine through; a lonely space; a place where nothing or no-one is able to ease your pain…

You pray, beg and plead for it to pass, go away and stay away but to no avail. Once it takes hold of you, you have no control!

Then there are the days when it seemingly disappears; almost catching you totally by surprise. The moment you realise it has dissipated, you pray, beg and plead for it to stay away, but over this to, you have no control!I'm Not Okay

It’s sneaky I tell you!

Sometimes just pouncing on you unawares. Coming out of nowhere.

But then there are times when you know it’s there, (somewhere in the back of your mind), lurking in the shadows. It even has the ability to haunt you in broad daylight, like a wild cat slowly stalking its prey and there you are either unsuspecting or all afraid, almost anticipating its pounce!

Crying in your Room

DEPRESSION HATES COMPANY! YOU DO NOT WANT PEOPLE AROUND WHEN YOU ARE FEELING THIS WAY!!

THE STRANGE THING IS THAT DEPRESSION LIFTS WHEN IN COMPANY!!!

SO MY ADVICE IS TO SOMETIMES FORCE YOUR WAY INTO THIS PERSONS COMPANY IF YOU FEEL THE NEED TO COMFORT OR CONNECT WITH THEM!

THEY MAY FEEL ANNOYED & EVEN EXPRESS THIS TRYING TO PUSH YOU AWAY BUT PERSEVERE BECAUSE YOU ARE ALL THEY HAVE!!

Kitty Love Hug

ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT HUGS HAVE MAGICAL POWERS!!!


Fact:Excercising Bunnies

Exercise stimulates our brain’s neurotransmitter, serotonin, which has also been called the ‘happiness hormone’.


Affirmation:Happy Sun

I now go beyond my fears and create a life filled with love and joy!


Inspiration:

BOOK

You Can Heal Your Life

Genre: Self-help Book

by Louise Hay

You Can Heal Your Life

MOVIE

Worlds Greatest Dad

Time: 99 min

Genre: Comedy/Drama

The Worlds Best Dad - Movie


SONG

Tomorrow by Quvenzhané Wallis


Here are some hard facts for the analytical minded:

Understanding Depression