Perfectly Imperfect

ImperfectI’m sure you’ve come across the words: “You’re perfect just the way you are!”, and you may have responded somewhere along the lines of: “Am I really?”. We often segment ourselves, ridiculing different parts saying: “I like this, but not that…”, whereas others tend to see and look at us as a whole and are probably less likely to pinpoint the flaws we nitpick about.

Im PerfectWhat we perceive as flaws are often the defining characteristics other people find appealing and attractive. Even though we hear phrases like, “we can’t all be the same” and “we are all unique”, most of us at some point just want to fit in and not be different or stand out. The attributes that make you unique are often the ones you wish away. Being accepted by your peers feels important and no matter how many people tell you its not or that it doesn’t matter, it still affects you none the less. People who sing this song probably didn’t have the problem or they’ve already overcome the hurdle of accepting themselves exactly as they are.

Nobody Is Perfect‘If you like and accept yourself, others will to’, is a concept that does not ring true for everyone. There are some fortunate individuals to whom everyone is attracted, even though they may secretly not like or even accept themselves as they are.  Onlookers with negative feelings about themselves will wish to trade places, thinking that likability would automatically solve their problems and assist to materialize all their hopes and dreams. On the other hand, some people often find themselves on their own and are totally happy and at peace in their own space, but observers may pity them, thinking it’s sad and that they must be very lonely. The lesson here is that situations are not always as it seems and what’s observed or portrayed on the outside may not be what’s prevailing on the inside.Happiness Perfection

Everyone perceives life differently. We all wish for what we do not have. We fall victim to thinking that we’d be happier if only certain things were different. The jokes on us. Happiness actually only comes from within and this is a result of accepting all our physical attributes and the situations in which we find ourselves. This does not mean that you do not need to strive for better. Oh hell no, that’s just the platform to build on. The mindset of “I’m happy with where I am, how I look and what I do”, puts you in the perfect head-space to be able to improve and excel at anything because it’s always easier starting from a positive place.

I love the sentiment; happiness is not an end destination, meaning to not put your ‘HAPPINESS’ on hold until you achieve something. In order to be happy you need to be content on your journey towards your achievements. If this is not the case you may experience short lived euphoria or an empty, hollow happiness; thinking that it will be better when you reach your next big goal. This negatively charged, goal-shifting habit is extremely detrimental to our well-being. The same goes for putting yourself down if you do not achieve a specific goal you’ve set. We should in actual fact be so proud of ourselves for just trying and even more ecstatic if we achieve what we set out to do. Mistakes Not Perfection

Life is not perfect. We are not perfect. Our friends, family, partners and co-workers are not perfect. Or are they? When they are in agreement with us and all our actions align, then we see everything as perfect, but when anything is out of sync then it’s as if the whole world is crashing down upon us. Everyone needs to do what they think is best for them and their situation, so things may not always align to your will. In some instances it will be perfect for you and in others, it will feel perfect for someone else. People often place unnecessary expectations on themselves and others to be and act a certain way. We’re normally over the moon, thinking that our world is perfect if things play out as we hoped, but should this not be the case, then major unhappiness ensues. Why does one perfect occurrence need to be at the expense of another or is this just how we perceive life?

The way of the world is to evolve and a conscious internal mind-shift could be the emotional evolution we need to see our lives and ourselves as perfect. Could this really be the answer to a blissful life?  If you’re distraught by the current view of your life then why not try on a different perception for size? What’s the worst that could happen; everything may still seem the same or a happy life may be your perfect fit? 

So to conclude: “The perfect solution for us may be to graciously accept what we now perceive as imperfect, whether in ourselves or others because that very imperfection may be what is needed to bring about the perfection we so desperately seek.”Imperfection Perfection


Fact :

5 Petal FlowerThe Fibonacci sequence, each number being the sum of the two numbers that precede it, (0, 1, 1, 2, 3, 5, 8, … to infinity), often appears in nature; like the number of petals in a flower. These petals are also placed according The Golden Ratio, at 0.618034 per turn around a 360° circle, which allows the best possible exposure to sunlight.


Affirmation :Dancing Butterflies

I am PERFECT just the way I am!


Quote :

Beyond Imperfections


Inspiration :

BOOK
Anne of Green Gables
by Lucy Maud Montgomery
Genre : Children Novel

MOVIE
The Princess Diaries
Time : 1hr 55min
Genre : Romance/Comedy

SONG
Perfect To Me by Anne-Marie



The Joyful Woes of Weddings

Isn’t it just the greatest news that two people intend celebrating their love with a formal union before friends and family?

Best Friends - Husband Wife

The fuss of engagement, well wishes and sharing of wedding day ideas are all so exciting and enjoyable… and then comes the planning.

When people proclaim weddings to be stressful, I think many of us, who have not been there, normally think it’s an over exaggeration. But I kid you not; you will encounter the strangest, some of which you never even thought possible.

Yes, there have been many a comedy based around wedding planning but that’s just it, it’s a comedy and you end up thinking that those characters are overplaying things for the benefit of the movie.

What happens when you come face to face with one or more of those dilemmas? This is not a movie. Definitely not a comedy. This is real life. It is affecting you as a couple and inevitably everyone who plays an important role in your life. I stress the word ‘IMPORTANT’ because it is senseless to worry about or bear costs for anyone who poses no significance in your life. The only exception may arise when you wish to keep the peace with your parents and find  yourself needing to invite people who are important to them.

RSVPWedding Planning DeathDeciding on the invitation list will more often than not have you thinking,… “All I wanted to do was get married, not be sitting with all this **** on my plate”. So you have: “Who to invite?”, as a starter, “What will cause the least upset?”, as your main, and hope that the “Perfect Solution” will be served for dessert. You may just have to pass up on dessert if you can’t figure it out. Who to seat around a table and who to keep as far from each other as possible? The last thing you would want is a fallout among friends or family when you are literally planning a union!

Plan Bride

All the other decision making can be fun but only if you allow it to be so. Your choices are important but if you are not able to get everything exactly as you imagined, be prepared to compromise and always bear in mind that it will come together beautifully.

Plan Groom

If this is not your mindset then all the movies in which couples decided to elope may cross your mind. The main reason is to escape the stress and strife surrounding what should be the ‘happiest day of their life’. You can’t help but question if that wouldn’t be an easier option.

Should you choose to bite the bullet, then the rapid approach of your momentous day will only hit you after realizing that everything has been decided upon. Everyone tries to plan for any mishaps that could disrupt the smoothly sailing of your day. Even so, do mentally prepare yourself for unexpected hiccups because, “THERE IS ALWAYS SOMETHING!”

Happy Planning Is Over

There maybe a fashion problem, a transport problem,  photo problem, a venue setup problem, a catering problem, a family problem, whatever the problem, know that it will be sorted out and the day will go on. There will be laughter and tears, highs and lows and that will all make for amazing story-telling in the long-run.

The BIG DAY is upon you. You experience HAPPY NERVES or COLD FEET  or maybe just a COOL CALM, even to the point where you are VOID of EMOTION. Whatever it may be, accept this as normal. Do not question how you should be feeling. It is different for everyone. Irrespective of what, this is a major turning point in your life because all you have known thus far is forging a path for one and from now onward it will be a joint life forging a way for two.Souls Hearts - John KeatsMy only advice is that you remember to take time throughout the day to capture mental memories because it passes quickly and when the day draws to a close, you will want to be able to relive all the special moments. Know that you have many future days to create extra special moments, even if not all went your way on YOUR SPECIAL DAY!


Inspired by:
XAV & ZAK
Wishing You
A LONG LIFE IN LOVE

Loving Penguin CoupleFact:

African and Royal penguins are monogamous, often mating for life. Both, male and female, prepare their nest and take care of the chicks.


Affirmation:Red Wedding Hearts

Small details take care of themselves and all is as it should be.


Quote:

Funny Marriage Quote


Inspiration:

MOVIE
Title: Father of the Bride
Time: 1 hr 45 min
Genre: Comedy

Father of the Bride - MOVIE

SONG
I Do by Boyz II Men