Advice, Happiness, Life, Personal Growth

Perfectly Imperfect


I’m sure you’ve come across the words: “You’re perfect just the way you are!”, and you may have responded somewhere along the lines of: “Am I really?”.

ImperfectWe often segment ourselves, ridiculing different parts saying: “I like this, but not that…”, whereas others tend to see and look at us as a whole and are probably less likely to pinpoint the flaws we nitpick about.

Im PerfectWhat we perceive as flaws are often the defining characteristics other people find appealing and attractive. Even though we hear phrases like, “we can’t all be the same” and “we are all unique”, most of us at some point just want to fit in and not be different or stand out. The attributes that make you unique are often the ones you wish away. Being accepted by your peers feels important and no matter how many people tell you its not or that it doesn’t matter, it still affects you none the less. People who sing this song probably didn’t have the problem or they’ve already overcome the hurdle of accepting themselves exactly as they are.

Nobody Is Perfect‘If you like and accept yourself, others will to’, is a concept that does not ring true for everyone. There are some fortunate individuals to whom everyone is attracted, even though they may secretly not like or even accept themselves as they are.  Onlookers with negative feelings about themselves will wish to trade places, thinking that likability would automatically solve their problems and assist to materialize all their hopes and dreams. On the other hand, some people often find themselves on their own and are totally happy and at peace in their own space, but observers may pity them, thinking it’s sad and that they must be very lonely. The lesson here is that situations are not always as it seems and what’s observed or portrayed on the outside may not be what’s prevailing on the inside.Happiness Perfection

Everyone perceives life differently. We all wish for what we do not have. We fall victim to thinking that we’d be happier if only certain things were different. The jokes on us. Happiness actually only comes from within and this is a result of accepting all our physical attributes and the situations in which we find ourselves. This does not mean that you do not need to strive for better. Oh hell no, that’s just the platform to build on. The mindset of “I’m happy with where I am, how I look and what I do”, puts you in the perfect head-space to be able to improve and excel at anything because it’s always easier starting from a positive place.

I love the sentiment; happiness is not an end destination, meaning to not put your ‘HAPPINESS’ on hold until you achieve something. In order to be happy you need to be content on your journey towards your achievements. If this is not the case you may experience short lived euphoria or an empty, hollow happiness; thinking that it will be better when you reach your next big goal. This negatively charged, goal-shifting habit is extremely detrimental to our well-being. The same goes for putting yourself down if you do not achieve a specific goal you’ve set. We should in actual fact be so proud of ourselves for just trying and even more ecstatic if we achieve what we set out to do. Mistakes Not Perfection

LIFE is not perfect. We are not perfect. Our friends, family, partners and co-workers are not perfect. Or are they? When they are in agreement with us and all our actions align, then we see everything as perfect, but when anything is out of sync then it’s as if the whole world is crashing down upon us. Everyone needs to do what they think is best for them and their situation, so things may not always align to your will. In some instances it will be perfect for you and in others, it will feel perfect for someone else. People often place unnecessary expectations on themselves and others to be and act a certain way. We’re normally over the moon, thinking that our world is perfect if things play out as we hoped, but should this not be the case, then major unhappiness ensues. Why does one perfect occurrence need to be at the expense of another or is this just how we perceive life?

The way of the world is to evolve and a conscious internal mind-shift could be the emotional evolution we need to see our lives and ourselves as perfect. Could this really be the answer to a blissful life?  If you’re distraught by the current view of your life then why not try on a different perception for size? What’s the worst that could happen; everything may still seem the same or a happy life may be your perfect fit? 

So to conclude: “The perfect solution for us may be to graciously accept what we now perceive as imperfect, whether in ourselves or others because that very imperfection may be what is needed to bring about the perfection we so desperately seek.”Imperfection Perfection


Fact :

5 Petal FlowerThe Fibonacci sequence, each number being the sum of the two numbers that precede it, (0, 1, 1, 2, 3, 5, 8, … to infinity), often appears in nature; like the number of petals in a flower. These petals are also placed according The Golden Ratio, at 0.618034 per turn around a 360° circle, which allows the best possible exposure to sunlight.


Affirmation :Dancing Butterflies

I am PERFECT just the way I am!


Quote :

Beyond Imperfections


Inspiration :

BOOK
Anne of Green Gables
by Lucy Maud Montgomery
Genre : Children Novel

MOVIE
The Princess Diaries
Time : 1hr 55min
Genre : Romance/Comedy

SONG
Perfect To Me by Anne-Marie


Advice, Happiness

Doing Happiness


Tight chest, thumping heart, shortness of breath or a lump in your throat; I’m sure many of you have experienced one of these at some time or maybe even all at once.

It could be plain old anxiety or a panic attack if your surroundings start spinning, maybe even a heart attack if you feel a sharp pain but what if it’s accompanied by a smile forming across your face?

Any one of these experiences will lead you to gasp for air. The former three will have some sort of adverse effect on your life but the latter will most probably leave you sighing with relief.

Some people may let this experience pass without a second thought. Others, after composing themselves may have questions racing through their heads. “What was that?”, if it passed quickly or “What is going on?”, if you remain smiling at nothing in particular. When you stop smiling but the feeling of elation remains, you may wonder, “What is this all in aid of?”. 

Smiles for no reason at all, inexplicable moments of elation and still thoughts of total contentment are results of pure happiness. On the contrary expressionless faces, mind racing thoughts and heavy hearts are the result of a life in momentary turmoil.

We can’t expect to be happy all the time but we can try to lessen the things that threaten our happiness. This would include the pressure of expectation placed on us by either ourselves or others. It’s very difficult to be happy if you are feeling overwhelmed by all your responsibilities.

How about doing a little exercise?

Write down a list of what you HAVE TO DO for yourself:
I HAVE TO PACK MY CUPBOARD
I HAVE TO TAKE MY CAR FOR A SERVICE
I HAVE TO…

Now re-write the same list starting with I WOULD LIKE TO:
I WOULD LIKE TO PACK MY CUPBOARD
I WOULD LIKE TO TAKE MY CAR FOR A SERVICE
I WOULD LIKE TO…
Reading this list will ultimately put a whole new spin on your feeling towards the tasks but you may still not really want to do any of them.

Replace ‘WOULD LIKE’ with ‘NEED’ and then think of the worst case scenario should you decide not do to these things:
I NEED TO PACK MY CUPBOARD – If not then
I’d waste time searching for things which could make me late!
I NEED TO TAKE MY CAR FOR A SERVICE – If not then
It may breakdown causing major damage which will take longer and cost more to repair. I may have to be without my car for much longer than the day service would take.

Now re-looking your list with consequences you can decide what it is that you REALLY need to do.
This will ultimately shorten your list and lessen your stress. You may even find that your feelings towards certain things on your ‘TO DO LIST’ changes after you complete something that you ‘REALLY NEEDED TO DO’.

The things you know and feel that you ‘have to do’ for family, friends and work can evoke feelings of guilt and fear and nothing good ever comes from those emotions.

I suggest that you apply the same strategy as above. You may want to add in the benefits of doing these things, including how it makes you feel with the positive and negative spin-offs thereof. This may seem very long winded but the more you do it, the easier it becomes and you may not even need to write anything down. Only do what makes you feel good and don’t even bother with that which will go unappreciated. Make doubly sure that you have enough time in your schedule because there’s nothing worse than being inundated with no end in sight.

We all have things that we absolutely love to do but tend to overlook prioritising them. What we fail to realise is that these little things are fundamentally important to our overall happiness. So please remember to do the little things that make YOU HAPPY!


Fact:Quokka

The quokka, part of the kangaroo and wallaby family, has been described as the “world’s happiest animal”.


Affirmation:Smiling Heart

I have the right to choose to do what makes me happy!


Quote:

Freedom Happiness

Inspiration:

BOOK
The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants
by Ann Brashares
Young Adult Fiction Novel

MOVIE
The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel
Time : 124 min
Drama / Comedy-drama

SONG

The Lazy Song by Bruno Mars